Go outside and look at the paint on your building. I visit a place that has needed the trim around their windows and their front door painted for years!
You don’t need anyone’s affection or approval in order to be good enough. When someone rejects or judges you it isn’t actually about you. It’s about them and their own insecurities, limitations, and needs , and you don’t have to internalize that. Your worth isn’t contingent upon other peoples acceptance of you – its something inherent. You exist, and therefore, you matter.
My favorite section at the airport is the arrivals area because I love watching people waiting for their loved ones and their reactions when they see each other.
A beautiful young woman is before me on the escalator and you can tell she is excited to see someone. As soon as she spots her handsome young man she starts screaming and waving her arms. She runs towards him, drops her bags at his feet, jumps into his arms, wraps her arms and legs around him and they start kissing. And they kept kissing and kissing and kissing. It brought a smile to our faces to see such an example of young love.
As we waited for our luggage, the lovebirds stood to my left and they did not stop. They were kissing and pawing at each and saying how much they missed each other. It was very sweet.
There is an older woman to my right waiting for her luggage too. Her husband walks into the airport, doesn’t even say hello to her, forcefully grabs her bag off the conveyor belt and says as he is walking away, “Hurry up, I’m double parked.”
I smiled as I compared the two relationships. What happens to our marriages? How do we go from running across an airport to throwing bags in a car?
Marriages are work, it all comes down to the simple choices you make in your marriage. Will you be the enthusiastic spouse or the spouse that is just going through the motions? Making simple choices and small gestures to be positive and show love could have a big impact on your life and how others respond to you. Which one will you be?
Darren and I celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary this year. I guess I know what I need to do the next time he is waiting for me at the airport.
I am setting up the banquet room for my presentation and in walks a gorgeous woman with a beaded head wrap and a huge smile. Of course we start talking and as I always do I ask her to tell me her story.
She tells me how lucky she is to live in Canada and how in her country growing up women were not allowed to work. She told me how blessed and grateful she is for her serving job.
A week later I am in another banquet room and the woman serving the room was very unhappy and complaining. I wished the two could meet and maybe the woman who wasn’t blessed to grow up in Canada could remind the woman who was, how great we have it here.