Can pumpkins make you happy?

pumpkins

Pumpkins are a great source of beta carotene. In a Harvard study, people with more carotenoids in their blood were (are) more likely to have an optimistic attitude. Researchers were not sure if the carotenoid levels were a cause or an effect of the optimism.
I KNEW pumpkin pie made me happy !
Source October 2016 Alive Magazine

Be The Change

This month, look for opportunities to tell others that they are doing a wonderful job. The cashier, the serving staff, the gas attendant, those who work at your children’s day care or school — our staff, your spouse and your children. The more you look for opportunities to tell people they are good, the more you will find. People need you to see them through the 90% lenses and hear that they are good.
I love the movie, Bruce Almighty. God (Morgan Freeman) says to Jim Carey, “Wanna see a miracle? Be the miracle!”
Three wooden cubes in the palm reading Be the change motivating you to go ahead and have the courage to make changes in order to grow and develop your personal life and career.

Give Thanks

With Thanksgiving around the corner, let’s make sure we are giving thanks. I like to send thank you emails and cards to people who I receive great service from.

After visiting my grama last week, I met an incredible employee named Lil at the care home. It is not very often I hear back from managers with such kind words about their staff.

Dear Don,

I have to tell you how totally impressed I was with Lil, her smile, energy and enthusiasm. She couldn’t stop talking about how much she loved her job and her residents.

You are very blessed to have her on your staff. She is blessed to have a job she loves.

Keep up the great work!
Darci

Don writes me back and says:

Good morning Darci,

You are an excellent judge of character and your assessment of Lil is right on the money. She is an excellent/outstanding employee respected by her peers, and loved by the residents. Thank you so much for taking the time to write this note. All of us could learn from your kindness. Small gestures like this can change the world. There is a ripple effect to such an email that touches many more than the writer and the subject.

We are very happy that your grandmother chose to live with us. We look forward to serving her years to come.

Sincerely,
Don

What Do You Do With Your Time?

Attitude Booster, September 2016

Hello booster friend! I hope you had a peaceful summer. I had a very mindful summer and I will share more of that with you over the next few months and in my blogs. Until then I wanted to share one of my favorite stories.

A vacationing American businessman standing on the pier of a quaint coastal fishing village in southern Mexico watched as a small boat with just one young Mexican fisherman pulled into the dock. Inside the small boat were several large yellowfin tuna. Enjoying the warmth of the early afternoon sun, the American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish.

“How long did it take you to catch them?” the American casually asked.

“Oh, a few hours,” the Mexican fisherman replied.

“Why don’t you stay out longer and catch more fish?” the American businessman then asked.

The Mexican warmly replied, “With this, I have more than enough to meet my family’s needs.”

The businessman then became serious, “But what do you do with the rest of your time?”

Responding with a smile, the Mexican fisherman answered, “I sleep late, play with my children, watch ball games, and take siesta with my wife. Sometimes in the evenings, I take a stroll into the village to see my friends, play the guitar, sing a few songs…”

The American businessman impatiently interrupted, “Look, I have an MBA from Harvard, and I can help you to be more profitable. You can start by fishing several hours longer every day. You can then sell the extra fish you catch. With the extra money, you can buy a bigger boat. With the additional income that larger boat will bring, before long you can buy a second boat, then a third one, and so on, until you have an entire fleet of fishing boats.”

Proud of his own sharp thinking, he excitedly elaborated a grand scheme which could bring even bigger profits, “Then, instead of selling your catch to a middleman you’ll be able to sell your fish directly to the processor, or even open your own cannery. Eventually, you could control the product, processing and distribution. You could leave this tiny coastal village and move to Mexico City, or possibly even Los Angeles or New York City, where you could even further expand your enterprise.”

Having never thought of such things, the Mexican fisherman asked, “But how long will all this take?”

After a rapid mental calculation, the Harvard MBA pronounced, “Probably about 15-20 years, maybe less if you work really hard.”

“And then what, señor?” asked the fisherman.

“Why, that’s the best part!” answered the businessman with a laugh. “When the time is right, you would sell your company stock to the public and become very rich. You would make millions.”

“Millions? Really? What would I do with it all?” asked the young fisherman in disbelief.

The businessman boasted, “Then you could happily retire with all the money you’ve made. You could move to a quaint coastal fishing village where you could sleep late, play with your grandchildren, watch ball games, and take siesta with your wife. You could stroll to the village in the evenings where you could play the guitar and sing with your friends all you want.”

A Script

Our boy, John, is an avid skateboarder. He loves to watch documentaries of competitive skateboarders and what their life was like growing up. In the story of Chris Cole, he talks about how his father walked out on them when he was a very young boy. Chris talks a lot about growing up without a father. He then goes on to explain that when he became a father himself he had no “script” since no one taught him how to be a good father. So, he had to write his own script.

My dad wrote his own script. Dad was a young single father in the early seventies and I remember stacks of motivational and parenting books on our coffee table. My dad would attend parenting classes on Wednesday nights. We have always been a family that was open to counselling and I dreaded Monday nights growing up because Monday nights were family meeting nights where we would talk about our feelings.

My husband Darren didn’t grow up with a script either. His dad died when he was eight years old. He is writing his own script and this script will be passed on to our boy John when he is raising his own children.

Maybe your dad didn’t grow up with a script which means he had to write his too. It’s never too late to write …. Or to rewrite your own.

Darci-Dad
Happy Father’s Day

Positively Service

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Don’t take the best customer service parking stops for the managers and then post “Managers Parking”. When people walk by those signs when we had to park a block away, it makes people cranky and wonder if you value customers.

Positively Service

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If you have a binder of information or you carry a folder with you please make sure they are nice. Often the binder is so old and beat it up and it really reflects on your business. If you go into peoples homes with binders or folders make sure they look good.

Our Mothers

I was blessed with many moms and women in my life who were like a mom. My life started with 16-year-old mom Beverley but soon it became just Dad and I and my babysitter, Sharon. Over the years, Dad married twice more and I spent my teenage years being raised by my amazing step-mom Sandy. When I married Darren i got the most wonderful mother-in-law, Dottie.

I wanted to share with you the lessons learned from these incredible women.

Forgive your mom. I didn’t have a true relationship with my mom, Beverley, until I was 31. When she died suddenly four years ago, I put my Mom to rest with no regrets and nothing left unsaid. She taught me you will make mistakes as a mother but you need to learn to say sorry and do it differently next time. Your mom is not perfect — learn to see her through a 90% lens. You’ll never regret that.

Sharon taught me that every child deserves love, even if they aren’t your children. Her house, filled with her three boys by the railroad track, was where I felt love. I have many happy memories of the woman who would greet me at the door with a hug. I am still so grateful to her.

Love your mother-in-law, which I know isn’t always the easiest thing to do. I lost my mother-in-law 14 years ago and I miss her. I learned to see her through my 90% lens and accept her for who she was. Dottie taught me that there is nothing is more important than time with your family. She would happily pack up a dinner she had just made or leave the garden she was working in to join us in whatever we wanted to do with her. I never turn down a chance to do anything with my teenagers; I know in a flash they will be grown.

My step-mom Sandy taught me to love everyone for who they are. She has this amazing ability to accept people where they are in their lives and love them anyway. She always says, “They are doing the best they can.” She always makes me feel good about myself and sends me notes and cards to tell me how proud she is of me. She taught me to wear the best make-up you can afford, wear sunscreen, you can never have enough linens or serving bowls and surround yourself with the things that you love.

What lessons did you learn from your mom?

Happy Mother’s Day,

Seek First

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I am always listening to my collection of motivational CD’s as I drive and I just listened to my old Steve Covey “7 Habits of Highly Effective People”. He reminded me of the “seek first to understand” habit. What a great way to lead others. First understand them, and then come to a solution.
This works wonders with my teenagers too, I listen and seek to understand them first.