Nothing is going to stop me this year! It is with great growth through hard times and some incredible times that I am where I am today and the person I have become.
Today is special, and I will make sure to honor my theme of worthiness today as a promise to myself this year.
The world-renowned expert Tal Ben-Shahar provides tools and techniques that can help you grow and thrive in difficult times. His book, HAPPIER, No Matter What: Cultivating Hope, Resilience, and Purpose in Hard Times really shows you what to focus on, where you have your magnifying glass, what you seek you will find!!
What is your magnifying glass focused on today?
Let’s celebrate together today!
Inside the life of me as a speaker.
As a speaker I show up with respect for my audience and my client, I bring enthusiasm for what I do and a message I am proud of, and that is my 90%. I spend a lot of my time as a speaker getting better at my job.
When I get home from my presentations, confetti does not fall from my ceiling and a red carpet does not roll down my driveway. No matter how much success I have on the road. All my family cares about is that I come home happy; and the question I am usually asked when I walk in the door is… what’s for dinner!
I believe what we focus on determines how we live our lives.
My focus on the 90% message will help you and your team to find positives at work, rise above adversity, and triumph in all you do!
If we laid our stress out like a bumper sticker or like the “new driver” sign on the back of your car, what would it look like? “Been through a divorce,” “Just lost a child,” etc. What would your bumper sticker say?
Our problems do not go away; they just grow into bigger problems if we don’t try and resolve them! It is time to see what your bumper sticker would say and lay that sucker out…
I speak from the experience of carrying around my own stresses for years until I finally had to say enough!
It is time to realize that if this is my reality and I can’t change it, what can I do to make it better?
What “suckers” do you have to lay out?
What would your bumper sticker say…?
Choosing to deal with what is on your bumper sticker is hard, but it has the opportunity to change your life.
Let’s lay our suckers out!
If you came to my house and you were feeling overwhelmed, I would take care of you. I would tell you to sit on the couch and I would make you tea. I would warm blankets in the dryer and cover you with them. I would shut the blinds, put the fireplace on and put on a calming waterfall playlist. I would tell you to have a nap, a rest. So why wouldn’t we do that for ourselves?
I have done a ton of personal development work to get past fear, but no matter how much I have healed, there are certain things in my life that can be a trigger and cause a jolt of fear to go through me. As you will read in my new book, I call myself “Sweetie.” That was a name I made for myself whenever I am triggered by my past. I feel the trigger, I honour it, give it focus for a few seconds and let it be real. Then gently move that thought aside and I put in my heart and say, “Its ok, you are safe.” And I get back into my life.
You need to change how you talk to yourself. Why do you talk badly about you? Who taught you that? Have you ever taped yourself and heard how you sound? I don’t recommend you cut yourself down, ever. Why do we think it’s good to beat ourselves up? Huh? I just finished a zoom call and the woman said, “I am always so hard on myself.” I hung up wondering, had she ever questioned why? Why is she hard on herself and what could she do to be kinder?
When I was having my Quarter Life Crisis at 24 years old, I sat in front of the mirror one day and just looked into my own eyes. I can honestly say I don’t know if I had ever really done that. I immediately saw myself through a 10% lens. Trauma teaches a child to see what they did not want to happen. I believe for the first 24 years of my life my brain was conditioned to see the 10%s. It was a habit and slowly over the years, I trained my brain to see good. To see good in the person in the mirror. When you can do that, then you can see good in others. Then you can see good in the world.
My journey to self-love started with doing mirror work. I LOVE Louise Hay and I own all of her books. Louise says, Mirror Work “The most powerful affirmations are those you say out loud when you are in front of your mirror. Why? Because the mirror reflects back to you the feelings you have about yourself. It makes you immediately aware of where you are resisting and where you are open and flowing.”
Thank you so much to the Town of White City for a live event yesterday! It was so wonderful to in front of a live group of some of the nicest people you could meet.
Thank you Rodney for being a leader who cares about his new team to fill their tool boxes back up with catered food and time together. A special shout out to Chantelle and Chazlyn for your help.
What are you doing for your “town of” or “city of” to honor your team for a very full two years?