Time to Embrace the 90%

I hope that in a world that has 10%s you are able to wake up in the morning and put your 90% magnifying glass in front of you and see what is good and what you can control every day, something that has radically changed my life.

Now I just finished my fourth book, finally! My fourth book, Embrace the 90%, a book for women, is out today and I am so grateful for this book. You know, yesterday I was listening to a podcast with Michael Singer, the author of The Untethered Soul, and he just finished his second book and he was explaining in the podcast how the book just needed to be written, and I can resonate with what he said. I needed to write this book. Though I have three books already, honest and vulnerable, authentic me explaining the 10%s I’ve been through, this is even a deeper dive.

This book is called Embrace the 90%, How to Slay Fear, Defy Your Labels and Love Yourself. And I am going to explain a very lengthy process I went through to overcome fear and trauma in my life. Then I want to talk about our labels because we were given labels as children. We’re told things by exes and coaches and people we love that just aren’t true. And if you can learn to see what you’ve been told through a 90% lens, you’ll learn that it made you resilient and made you powerful. And then the last chapter is about loving yourself because some of us didn’t learn how to do that, and I’m going to mentally, physically and spiritually fill your self-love toolbox full.

Thank you for all of your support, thank you for being a part of my newsletter, thank you for being a part of my social media. I can’t wait for you to have this new book. Take care.

Watch the video here: https://youtu.be/RLE_6eSXNbs

 

Peace of Mind

I am officially done my new book for women called, Embrace the 90% – How to Slay Fear, Defy your Labels and Love Yourself. In one of the final chapters, I share a quote by speaker and author Michael B. Beckwith that says, “If this experience were to last forever, what quality would have to emerge for me to have peace of mind?” This quote has changed how I show up when there is conflict around me.
There is a lot going on and some of it feels like it is lasting forever. We are still feeling the mental and physical effects of COVID, war abroad and for some of us, winter has returned. That is in addition to what our day-to-day life already throws our way. We are busy doing our jobs, running our businesses, leading teams, providing customer service and running our households! It’s a lot. People are worn out. So how can we have peace of mind in the middle of all of that?
I guess I would answer that with a question, “Despite all of the experiences that are going on around YOU, what are you doing to emerge with peace of mind?” What are you doing to grow as a person despite the experiences? How many times a day do you move your thoughts from what you can’t control to what you can?

Let’s Celebrate

Nothing is going to stop me this year! It is with great growth through hard times and some incredible times that I am where I am today and the person I have become.
Today is special, and I will make sure to honor my theme of worthiness today as a promise to myself this year.
The world-renowned expert Tal Ben-Shahar provides tools and techniques that can help you grow and thrive in difficult times. His book, HAPPIER, No Matter What: Cultivating Hope, Resilience, and Purpose in Hard Times really shows you what to focus on, where you have your magnifying glass, what you seek you will find!!
What is your magnifying glass focused on today?
Let’s celebrate together today!

Speaker Life

Inside the life of me as a speaker.
As a speaker I show up with respect for my audience and my client, I bring enthusiasm for what I do and a message I am proud of, and that is my 90%. I spend a lot of my time as a speaker getting better at my job.
When I get home from my presentations, confetti does not fall from my ceiling and a red carpet does not roll down my driveway. No matter how much success I have on the road. All my family cares about is that I come home happy; and the question I am usually asked when I walk in the door is… what’s for dinner!
I believe what we focus on determines how we live our lives.
My focus on the 90% message will help you and your team to find positives at work, rise above adversity, and triumph in all you do!

 

Lay Out Your Stress

If we laid our stress out like a bumper sticker or like the “new driver” sign on the back of your car, what would it look like? “Been through a divorce,” “Just lost a child,” etc. What would your bumper sticker say?
Our problems do not go away; they just grow into bigger problems if we don’t try and resolve them! It is time to see what your bumper sticker would say and lay that sucker out…
I speak from the experience of carrying around my own stresses for years until I finally had to say enough!
It is time to realize that if this is my reality and I can’t change it, what can I do to make it better?
What “suckers” do you have to lay out?
What would your bumper sticker say…?
Choosing to deal with what is on your bumper sticker is hard, but it has the opportunity to change your life.
Let’s lay our suckers out!

Take Care of Yourself

If you came to my house and you were feeling overwhelmed, I would take care of you. I would tell you to sit on the couch and I would make you tea. I would warm blankets in the dryer and cover you with them. I would shut the blinds, put the fireplace on and put on a calming waterfall playlist. I would tell you to have a nap, a rest.  So why wouldn’t we do that for ourselves?

Personal Development

I have done a ton of personal development work to get past fear, but no matter how much I have healed, there are certain things in my life that can be a trigger and cause a jolt of fear to go through me.  As you will read in my new book, I call myself “Sweetie.” That was a name I made for myself whenever I am triggered by my past. I feel the trigger, I honour it, give it focus for a few seconds and let it be real. Then gently move that thought aside and I put in my heart and say, “Its ok, you are safe.”   And I get back into my life.

Be Kinder

You need to change how you talk to yourself. Why do you talk badly about you? Who taught you that? Have you ever taped yourself and heard how you sound? I don’t recommend you cut yourself down, ever. Why do we think it’s good to beat ourselves up? Huh? I just finished a zoom call and the woman said, “I am always so hard on myself.” I hung up wondering, had she ever questioned why? Why is she hard on herself and what could she do to be kinder?

Quarter Life Crisis

When I was having my Quarter Life Crisis at 24 years old, I sat in front of the mirror one day and just looked into my own eyes. I can honestly say I don’t know if I had ever really done that. I immediately saw myself through a 10% lens. Trauma teaches a child to see what they did not want to happen. I believe for the first 24 years of my life my brain was conditioned to see the 10%s. It was a habit and slowly over the years, I trained my brain to see good. To see good in the person in the mirror. When you can do that, then you can see good in others. Then you can see good in the world.

Mirror Work

My journey to self-love started with doing mirror work. I LOVE Louise Hay and I own all of her books. Louise says, Mirror Work “The most powerful affirmations are those you say out loud when you are in front of your mirror. Why? Because the mirror reflects back to you the feelings you have about yourself. It makes you immediately aware of where you are resisting and where you are open and flowing.”