Thank you Kevin and team for hiring me for the Coop Refinery today. I spoke with a group of leaders today who have a very important job of leading others in a tough physical job.
When a group of leaders and I get to share an afternoon together I like to remind them that great leaders need to do remember to:
Tell the story of their work from a 90% lens. Make sure the words they use at work and at home are positive. The impression we leave are the words that we use. We have to be careful to talk about our work in a positive way at work, at home and at the BBQ around strangers we haven’t met.
Lead by example. If my entrepreneurial friends say my staff are not happy I ask them, “Are you?” Are we showing up happy and grateful for our work so that we can empower them… by example…to do the same
Let people know they are good. Some of the people that I have employed/ been on my team have never heard they were good. They didn’t hear it at their dinner table growing up, in their marriage or from the last leader they worked for. It’s important that people are told they are doing a good job.
Send people home happy to their families. Work is only one part of our employees lives. Their family life is far more important that what they do at work all day.
I am Saskatoon today with my public event…
Thank you to everyone who took time out of their day to attend!
I know it can be tough to invest in yourself and your staff so thank you for committing to my workshop and spending your hard earned money! I know you discovered a lot of uses for my Focus on the 90% tool and now that you’ve added to your personal and professional tool box I’m sure you’ll find even more!
When people ask me, “How are you so happy?” I answer, “It is work!!” Being negative is far easier than being positive. Positive is a constant commitment. You have to go to seminars, listen to podcasts, watch Ted talks, read positive books, watch positive television, eat healthy food and take care of yourself physically. That is work!
So coming to a seminar like this one is the first step. You have to keep working on it. You don’t go to one seminar and you are happy forever, you have to keep going to more!! Personal development is a commitment but if you do nothing to change the woman and man in the mirror; nothing in your life will change.
I love Saskatoon! I love your Meewasin Walking Trail. I took the time as I always to sit on Leo LeClairs bench and remind myself we all have a choice on how we live.
I am a very dedicated RBC Dominion Securities client, and here is why: Not only is Rob Cameron an outstanding advisor and a great person all around, but we have had a long relationship that started 16 years ago when my mother-in-law, Dorothy, passed away.
Dorothy was an amazing woman who had to quit school in Grade 8 to help raise her 12 brothers and sisters. She married John who became very sick when Darren, the youngest of 3 boys, was born. She lost her husband 8 years later with 3 boys to raise, a farm to run and a house in the city. She went on to become a success by going to back to school to get her Grade 12, then a university degree. She worked at the Coop Refinery, had revenue homes and learned how to manage and save her money. When she died suddenly, my husband and his brothers were left to pick up the pieces.
Dorothy had her money invested in four different companies. My job was to call them and let them know our beloved Dottie had passed away and to ask what we needed to do next. We eventually moved our investments to Rob because, when I called to tell him, he cared so much. He didn’t launch into a scripted speech about how much paper work was now involved, or how we had to come to the office to sign some papers, he just… cared.
And at the end of the day, isn’t that what matters most?
When someone cares, everything changes.
Hello Blog Friends!
Starting today, I enter into the busiest week and half long stretch I have ever had in my 24 year career. Like most people, sometimes it feels like I need to schedule in time to breathe, but I am grateful for each moment. My schedule is full but so is my heart, and I wanted to share with you what I do to stay focused on the 90% during this very blessed busy time.
I eat and drink only healthy food and beverages. Literally…only. I cannot get sick, run down or take a day off. The difference between showing up with tons of energy or low energy is equal to the amount of healthy foods I consume. I cannot stress enough how eating whole foods adds to my energy.
I sleep. I give up a clean house, finished projects and answered emails to go to bed as early as possible. Not only do I need energy for my work but sometimes I need more energy when I get home. My family needs me to hit the ground running. No one has time for me to be tired.
I give myself the gift of silence. In times when my mind is racing and I am preparing for the next big event, I must create spaces of silence to let my mind sort it all out and rest. I drive in silence, put ear buds in at the airport and on the airplane to avoid too much visiting (which I love to do!) and I do not turn a TV on at home or in the hotel. I crave silence.
I do not take on anything…. or anyone… extra. The mission is: Out the door and back in the best possible, positive way. I protect and preserve myself from anything toxic.
Darren asked me the sweetest thing a spouse could ever ask, “What can I do to support you during this time?” When we are busy, we need to calmly communicate what we need. By doing this, I save myself from coming home a depleted woman who is focused only on the 10%.
You may be entering a busy time with the Christmas season. Make sure you go into the season rested, nourished, and taking care of you. If someone you love is entering their busy time, be a support them. Ask them the sweet words, “How can I support you?”
Let’s give ourselves permission to acknowledge what we need to be at our best. Let’s take the time to be kind to ourselves and others. Let’s embrace our 90%s.
PS. Watch my 5 Languages of Love video https://youtu.be/vO-vXE4N3n0 here!
“The veterans of our military services have put their lives on the line to
protect the freedoms that we enjoy. They have dedicated their lives to their
country and deserve to be recognized for their commitment.”
– Judd Gregg
Canadian National War Memorial and Tomb of the Unknown Soldier in Ottawa, Canada in Black and White with red poppy flowers
This story originally ran as an Attitude Booster November 2015.
I checked into my hotel with a group of travelers who were all tired and delayed due to fog. The front desk staff told us we had two choices “a newly renovated room that will smell of glue and will likely give you a headache – or an older room.” I opted for the older room. She added, “Oh, and when you wake up and look out of your window, the construction next door will make you think you were looking at a war zone!”
The next morning as I pulled the curtains back, it did indeed look like a war zone. The building had been demolished and there was rock and debris everywhere. It was so ugly that it was unsettling. I stood there looking out that window reflecting on what it would be like to wake up in a country where this was your view. It made me tear up.
There was a lot of complaining at the convention – the delays, the rooms and the awful weather. Luckily, I was blessed to be the opening speaker… I reminded this group that even though we had all experienced 10%s, we needed to see the 90%s. I asked if anyone had looked out of their window that morning. Most nodded that they had. I asked them what it would be like to look out a window every day in a country where that was their view. Millions wish for the lives we have in Canada. People die trying to come and live here.
There are so many 90%s – a bed to sleep in, a roof over our head and non-stop convention food. I reminded them that although we had many 10%s, they were not what my daughter calls “first world problems”. We need to be so grateful for all of those who fought for us to have this incredible life in Canada.
This is my late Grandpa John aka…Pop. Thank you, Pop, for coming to Canada and fighting for me so I don’t open a curtain to a war zone every day.
I totally admire people who choose the very challenging job of caring for and protecting people.
In order for me to not get worn down in my job as speaker (24 years later!), I am focused on ruthless self-care and what I can do to keep the woman in the mirror rested, nourished and taken care of.
If you have the important job of caring for people, young, elderly or inmates, what are you doing to keep yourself preserved and protected?
Are you sleeping enough, are you eating well, exercising, creating silence, watching and reading only positive 90% messages, hanging out with positive 90% people and leaving your problems (the 10%s) at the door so your family gets the best of you?
We chose our job so we must build our armour to go out and do them well and still have something left for ourselves and those we love.
Thank you so much for everyone who took the time (and invested their hard earned money!) to attend my event in Prince Albert today. Thank you for investing in your staff and in yourself by adding the Focus on the 90% tool to your personal and professional tool box!
When people say to me, “How are you so happy?” I answer, “It is work!!” Being negative is far easier than being positive. Positive is a constant commitment. You have to go to seminars, listen to podcasts, watch Ted talks, read positive books, watch positive television , eat healthy food and take care of yourself physically. That is work!
So coming to a seminar is one part. You have to keep working on it. You don’t go to one seminar and you are happy forever, you have to keep going to more!! Personal development is a commitment but if you do nothing to change the woman and man in the mirror; nothing in your life will change.
Thank you Prince Albert for “showing up” today and caring enough about your personal development to invest in yourself.
An audience member recently shared this with me:
Darci, thank you for sharing your life story with us at the annual Pharmacy Technician Conference last week in Vancouver. It reminded me of the words by Neale Donald Walsch, author of Conversations With God, “The fastest way to receive anything from the universe is to give it away to someone else. Whatever you ask for from God, find someone else in this world who needs that right now, and be the source of that miracle for another. You will then discover that what flows through you is given to you. For that which you give to another, you would have given to yourself”
May you have happiness and peace.
Off to beautiful Moose Jaw Saskatchewan today to speak to their Christian Women’s League members.
Speaker/Author Matthew Kelly says ” We are all billboards for the Christian faith; What does your billboard say?” We motivational speakers are billboards for what we do. We have to go out into our communities and be the example of what we preach on stage. We are all billboards for our work and the businesses that we own.
There is one thing to preach it and another to truly live it. Show the world you are a Christian by how happy and grateful you are for your 90%s.