Take Care of Yourself

If you came to my house and you were feeling overwhelmed, I would take care of you. I would tell you to sit on the couch and I would make you tea. I would warm blankets in the dryer and cover you with them. I would shut the blinds, put the fireplace on and put on a calming waterfall playlist. I would tell you to have a nap, a rest.  So why wouldn’t we do that for ourselves?

Personal Development

I have done a ton of personal development work to get past fear, but no matter how much I have healed, there are certain things in my life that can be a trigger and cause a jolt of fear to go through me.  As you will read in my new book, I call myself “Sweetie.” That was a name I made for myself whenever I am triggered by my past. I feel the trigger, I honour it, give it focus for a few seconds and let it be real. Then gently move that thought aside and I put in my heart and say, “Its ok, you are safe.”   And I get back into my life.

Be Kinder

You need to change how you talk to yourself. Why do you talk badly about you? Who taught you that? Have you ever taped yourself and heard how you sound? I don’t recommend you cut yourself down, ever. Why do we think it’s good to beat ourselves up? Huh? I just finished a zoom call and the woman said, “I am always so hard on myself.” I hung up wondering, had she ever questioned why? Why is she hard on herself and what could she do to be kinder?

Quarter Life Crisis

When I was having my Quarter Life Crisis at 24 years old, I sat in front of the mirror one day and just looked into my own eyes. I can honestly say I don’t know if I had ever really done that. I immediately saw myself through a 10% lens. Trauma teaches a child to see what they did not want to happen. I believe for the first 24 years of my life my brain was conditioned to see the 10%s. It was a habit and slowly over the years, I trained my brain to see good. To see good in the person in the mirror. When you can do that, then you can see good in others. Then you can see good in the world.

Mirror Work

My journey to self-love started with doing mirror work. I LOVE Louise Hay and I own all of her books. Louise says, Mirror Work “The most powerful affirmations are those you say out loud when you are in front of your mirror. Why? Because the mirror reflects back to you the feelings you have about yourself. It makes you immediately aware of where you are resisting and where you are open and flowing.”

Town of White City

Thank you so much to the Town of White City for a live event yesterday! It was so wonderful to in front of a live group of some of the nicest people you could meet.

Thank you Rodney for being a leader who cares about his new team to fill their tool boxes back up with catered food and time together. A special shout out to Chantelle and Chazlyn for your help.

What are you doing for your “town of” or “city of” to honor your team for a very full two years?

Labels

At lunch one day my friend said, “I am lazy.” She is not lazy. I said, “No you’re not, why do you say that?” She said, “I don’t know it is just what I have always been told.” I said, “I don’t think you are lazy at all.” She replied,” Huh, neither do I. I guess I am not lazy after all.” We carry these labels around without even questioning why we have them.

Self-love

Let’s talk about self-love. I spent the first 24 years of my life with no concept of what this meant. Loving the person in the mirror was not something we all learned how to do growing up. I challenge people to unpack the belief systems they have around self-love. When you write that word what does it mean to you? Was it something 10%, like selfish or something 90% like necessary? Leave 90% or 10% in comments to share 👇

Belief Systems

Have you ever questioned the belief systems you have around other people? If I made a long list of words like; work, coworkers, clients, marriage, women, men, happy people, certain religious or ethnic groups, then I asked you to write down what your belief systems are that go with the word, what would you write? Then the last step I would ask you is, why? Why do you believe what you believe? Who taught you that? Were they right? In comments, I am curious to ask, do you believe the things you have been told about yourself? Type Y for yes, and N for no.

Luck

On this day of luck…let’s remind ourselves that it is not only luck that got us where we are today, but it is what we empower. ‘What you love, you empower, and what you fear, you empower, and what you empower, you attract.’ So today when you are waiting for that pot of gold see what you empower, is it that 90% in your life or the 10%s in your life. Now pause … and reach the rainbow and see all the 90% you have in your life today.